When one is angry negativity surround’s him. He is hurdled into a dark tunnel of self-obsession, what one can see is himself, and the reasons he should be angry. While at the same time other side of the picture is filled with reasons why he shouldn’t be angry. When we evaluate both sides eventually the latter wins. It is popular opinion that anger fog’s ones judgement, it also takes one capacity to think positively. Anger uses your mental energy and physical strength, it drains you of both resources, and leave your heart exhausted and tired. Anger can bring the most deeply buried thoughts and moments to the front of your mind. Anger is a phenomenon in which you are not in the pilot seat but the anger itself. It make us do things for which we are sorry afterwards. When we see back, we can’t connect the dots why we were being angry. It is a ferocious way of expression, anything leading to it is factually judgmental and perceptual.
Why we get angry? Answer is as simple as why we get hungry? Violence is embedded into fabric of human nature. It is always there ready to hit the surface, and it does when we snap. Anger is the expression of a desperate man. One resolves to violence when he feel cornered, out of options and losses hope then the violent expression and negative thought pattern makes sense. What makes a person angry vary from person to person but it always carry a history. Everyone has a weak point which can make them angry. When it is pressed upon the suffocation, hatred, pain, and irrationality kicks in. Everyone has it layered into them, it’s all under control till we snap. Some snap faster than other they are angrier and some rarely they are calmer. It is inevitable and will happen eventually, what’s important is how we control it. Some keep it in the head and let it brew and this is most dangerous of all, because it results in something worse afterwards rather than resolve.
Anger has a few upsides, it reminds you where your weakness lies and gives a unique opportunity to work on resolving it, teaches to harness patience and calm, shows you the mirror of what you can become if you do not reign yourself. Anger is a child of ignorance and carelessness never do that to yourself or others.
Anger is not an illness it a symptom. When it appears one should see inside themselves and figure out the real problem .Whenever you feel angry do the following things and you might see the rational side.
- Sit down and close your eyes, and think of the happening until you see the real thing.
- Drink some fluid.
- Pace around and breathe deeply.
- Don’t speak until you are sure words you will speak will be of calmer tone.
- Avoid getting physical contact.
- Give yourself space and if it’s a fight back-down and you won’t regret it.
- Don’t make anything an ego problem
- Last but not the least think of yourself as a sport and others spectators, Don’t be their entertainment.